Lost after college? Good

Posted on June 2, 2011


Harriet May

David Brooks offers some advice in The New York Times to recent grads leaving a structured adolescent life to face an unstructured adult world:

Today’s graduates are also told to find their passion and then pursue their dreams. The implication is that they should find themselves first and then go off and live their quest. But, of course, very few people at age 22 or 24 can take an inward journey and come out having discovered a developed self.

Most successful young people don’t look inside and then plan a life. They look outside and find a problem, which summons their life. A relative suffers from Alzheimer’s and a young woman feels called to help cure that disease. A young man works under a miserable boss and must develop management skills so his department can function. Another young woman finds herself confronted by an opportunity she never thought of in a job category she never imagined. This wasn’t in her plans, but this is where she can make her contribution.

And he concludes with

Most of us are egotistical and most are self-concerned most of the time, but it’s nonetheless true that life comes to a point only in those moments when the self dissolves into some task. The purpose in life is not to find yourself. It’s to lose yourself.


Harriet May works at the startup Loom, where she does a little bit of everything.  She started Résumé Mascara after her company was hiring and she was forced to read far too many below-par résumés from recent grads.  Harriet enjoys running with her dog, Ninja, and watching way too much bad reality television.  

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